The other day I explained to a friend that as soon as you meet someone else who is adopted, you instantly have a connection. Regardless of whether you later find out that the person is annoying, a Republican, has bad taste in music, or whatever, you always retain that small semblance of “I am he is me and we are one” because it’s just a thing. You’re both adopted. Obviously you can say that about any shared interest or quality, but I’m fairly sure it’s different when you find someone else who is adopted/Jewish/mixed (and that’s just for me) or shares another quality that makes you different and minority(-ish) status, as opposed to finding someone who, on that day, at least, likes the same types of movies as you do.
So I’m glad to finally see that in a novel. I just read If I Tell by Janet Gurtler, which does a great job of presenting unconventional friendships and relationships that aren’t the normal generic YA ones of popular friend, nerd friend, love interest, goofy guy friend, etc. This is the kind of older YA I like, because it gives a picture of more social maturity than is usually assumed in fiction for teens. Also, it’s always nice when a character isn’t a clear member of a certain social clique–Jaz reminded me of myself and people I went to high school with, where social classes and cliques weren’t as easily spelled out as they are in high school movies (or in bigger high schools). (That, for me, at least, didn’t happen until college, which was essentially another three and a half years of high school.) But I digress. Continue reading

